Being a leader is about living your life in a way that inspires or encourages others. Here is the 9th in my series of monthly newsletters, each with a section on the skills you need so you can be a leader of your life. To lead is to serve. If you make it your goal to do the best that you can and to help people, then you can't fail. I encourage you to commit to keep learning.
The content below is extracted from Mike Holt's Leadership Skills - Taking Your Career to the Next Level.
"No" - The Most Difficult Word |
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Learning to say "No" is an empowering skill. |
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They say it’s our ability to say “No” that determines how successful we truly are in life. Have you ever found yourself saying “yes” when you really wanted to say “no”? It’s something almost everyone does and we do it for a variety of reasons:
- We don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings.
- We don’t want to appear uncooperative.
- We’re afraid people won’t like us if we say “no.”
Remember that part of being a leader is being honest, so don’t say “yes” or “maybe” when you want to say “no.”
- Be assertive, not deceptive.
- Don’t agree with something you can’t do or don’t want to do.
- Don’t take on a responsibility for which you have no obligation.
- Don’t let yourself be talked into doing anything that’s contrary to your best interests or those of the team.
You’ll reduce your stress level by saying “no” to a situation you can’t handle, or don’t choose to handle. Say “no” and mean it! Consider what you’re actually able to do versus what you would like to do. There’s nothing wrong with saying “no” if you know that added responsibility will cause a serious problem with your schedule.
A survey suggested that if you were to say “no,” it would be the correct answer 80 percent of the time. When you do say “yes” and make a commitment, be realistic about the expectations and the time needed to complete or honor it.
Even though it might be difficult at first, with practice you’ll find it easier to draw the line tactfully and protect your time. Said correctly, people usually respond well to a firm “no.” It requires clear, logical thinking. Don’t be wishy-washy! Be honest about whatever you decide to do. Explain why you can’t (or won’t) agree to the request. If there are alternatives, share them with the other person. Most people will appreciate your honesty. Whenever you say "yes" to one thing, something else will become a "no" because you don't have time to do it all. There's a downside to every "yes". Something suffers and usually it's your family, because you take them for granted.
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The above content is extracted from Mike Holt's Leadership Skills textbook.
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